I just finished reading You’re Loved No Matter What by Holley Gerth. I knew I’d enjoy this book. I’ve read one of her other books and have yet another sitting in my massive pile of books to be read. I’ve also been following along with her blog for quite some time. Coffee for your heart, anyone?
For me, this book couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been struggling with feeling the weight of needing to be perfect for a long time, in many areas, and it was so refreshing to receive a release — not just from people saying ‘you put too much pressure on yourself’ — but from Jesus through Scripture as well.
Holley crafts the words of the book into a beautiful breath of fresh air that I know my heart needed. I don’t need to strive for perfection. It’s not what Jesus intends for me. It’s not what anyone should expect of me. I can go for excellence, and yet rest in the perfect Grace of God when my pursuit of excellence falls short and I don’t make it. Trust me, I don’t make it a lot.
Holley gave excellent, practical, real-life examples of people who’ve gone through this very thing. She talks about gratitude as the antidote to perfectionism. When you can be thankful for what you have, why would you need to strive for what you can’t get? She mentions Ann Voskamp‘s One Thousand Gifts app. I had it a while ago; I downloaded it shortly after reading (and loving!) One Thousand Gifts. I started recording my way to 1000, trying to be grateful, but wound up feeling guilty because I was being grateful for the same things over and over again….. So I deleted the app. I couldn’t even get gratitude right! Talk about perfectionism. When you can’t actually be grateful because you’ve imposed your own rules on how to be just that…. whoa.
So this book has given me the fresh perspective I need to give an ‘attitude of gratitude’ (as cheesy as that phrase really is…) another shot. If gratitude is the antidote to perfectionism, and releasing my need to be perfect because I can’t be will let me breathe, sleep, and function better as a human being….. I feel like I have nothing to lose.I highly recommend this book, and in fact have already farmed my copy out. If you’re tired of the try-hard “I can’t do this” “too much pressure” kind of life, relax and have a heart to heart with Holley Gerth. She really does wiggle her way right into the places my heart needs to relax the most.